There are a few celebrities that I have formed strong opinions about. One of them is Kim Kardashian. After seeing the finale of her New York stay, they are now stronger.
First off, let me clarify that I am not jealous of KK. I don’t want to look like I am sucking something sour 24/7. Despite what some men like, I do not want my ass disproportionate to my body. More importantly, I do not want to be driven by fame and glamour. I’ve seen KK in person and she is not as nice as she claims to be.
The only reason I’m making time to write about a person who is of public interest is to point out how we are often caught up in the media spin. Kim is not a celebrity. A celebrity is someone who is celebrated by the public for their merits. Besides a series of pin ups, why should we celebrate KK’s body of work? Oh yeah, most rather celebrate her body.
After only 72 days KK filed for divorce. Curious as the next, I watched the relationship unravel with intensity. I began this process open minded. Yes, there were many cut scenes, or much that went on behind closed doors. Still, it is hard to mask the truth.
I am fully aware of what it is like to marry a man that you are unsure of. I, too, married a man that I didn’t fully know to follow my dream. I also jumped in and expected the tides to change. For that they both gained my sympathy.
My ex husband and Kris have a lot in common. Kris is a meat head. Kris ignores sensitive topics because he lacks the depth of being in touch with his own feelings or the ability to express them. Not an unusual trait for men. Kris, like all of us, is not perfect.
Let’s start from the beginning. Upon arrival to New York KK put huge pressures on her new husband to come up with a plan for parenting and living situations. She expected her husband to jump in to whatever whims she had come up with. From the beginning KK proved herself to be unsure of what she wanted, but demanded that her feelings were put into consideration. Yet, she weighed more heavily on the advice of her family and the demands of her career.
Over the course of the following episodes, I laughed as every time the cameras were on KK she was either crying or stuffing her mouth (mostly stuffing). This brought great amusement to me. Despite Kris changing his life to fit into hers, he stayed true to his priorities of being an athlete, while trying to assimilate as a member of the Kardashian clan.
In the end, KK made no attempt to really deal with the strife that had grown between them. She obsessed with what was wrong with him and never noticed what was wrong with her. Not once was she open and honest about what she was feeling. Not once did she communicate what she needed from him to make the marriage work.
You may wonder why I care so much about this. Well, my own failed marriage makes me curious to learn the right and wrong way to be in a committed relationship. Although I had the same concerns as KK, I told my ex almost religiously of my needs and what he could do to make things better for me.
I also incorporated his needs into my routine to show my level of commitment. I’m not talking about cancelling a few appearances. I left a job that offered excitement and a nice salary. I moved to a city which I knew I hated. I stopped smoking and using any recreational substances. Everyday in my marriage I tried new things to enliven our relationship. I poured my money into him, and our home hoping all these acts of dedication would remedy the situation.
When KK says “I tried,” I call bullshit. For example, when her sister-in-law was in town, she did not make an effort to spend time with her. KK blamed the tension between her and Kris, yet made no effort to have one on one time with her in-law. That was rude.
In the last few episodes, KK had plenty of opportunities to express her unhappiness to Kris, instead she distanced herself and began to fixate on what was missing. Uh, honesty and communication was missing. Why was it so easy to tell her sisters how unhappy she was in the marriage, yet didn’t have the same conversation with her husband.
KK made no effort. I hope this shame and embarrassment keeps her out of the limelight. Whether you agree with me or not, look at the example she had made to all the young women who look up to her. Not only do they have to spend hours fixating on their physical appearance and covering their many flaws, they have to give up when it gets tough. Kim Kardashian is a disgrace.
As for the rest of the Kardashian’s… I’m happy for Kourtney and Scott and the coming addition to their family. Let’s hope they get one parents looks, not the weird mix like Mason. I hope Khloe gets to be a mother. I’m doubtful, but would like to see Rob get a life. The matriarch, Kris, really needs to retire and stop being a stage mom (who has taken the stage).
Before I end I want to make a comment on all these celebrity couples that have recently ended. Please stop making these women look like victims. Like JLo and her choice of a controlling husband, she knew what she was doing. Katy Perry married a mad man, duh! I haven’t read the article on Heidi and Seal, but I can’t imagine he was that bad.
In my opinion a victim is someone unknowing or unwilling to participate. Even though my ex belittled me and took advantage of my generosity, I was not a victim. I was just plain stupid! We are adults. Take some responsibility!
